Create a reflection blog that discusses your personal balance sheet that summarizes your assets and liabilities.
Assets:
My distinctive strengths (things I know I do well and strengths that others see in me).
One distinctive strength I possess is the fact that I make it a point to enter a state of introspection multiple times every day. I believe this helps me evaluate my feelings and whether or not they are appropriate and make adjustments accordingly. My analytical mind also helps identify areas such as people or processes that could improve. No, I’m not running around telling people what they should change to make themselves better. However, I have no problem providing feedback if asked. I also believe I communicate very well as I have been told numerous times. I pick up on people’s personalities very quickly and get a good sense of what may work or not work. I also recognize that everyone is different and responds to communication differently. Therefore, I have honed a keen ability to communicate very effectively. Another strength is my dependability. The bottom line is everyone knows they can count on me. If I say I am going to do something, I do it. Period.
My potential Strengths (things I could do better or more often if I focused, or things I do well in some situations and could begin to apply more broadly).
Confidence in decision making. Self-doubt. There are two areas which come to mind when I think of potential strengths and may either be the same thing or at least closely related: self-doubt and my confidence in decision making. Most people want to do everything right. Never want to make a mistake. However, most people hopefully also realize that isn’t realistic. Personally, despite understanding that reality, I tend to freeze up in some situations because I simply do not want to make the wrong choice. I have worked very hard throughout the years to improve this area, but I still have a ways to go. And, I have found that making mistakes is sometimes the best way to learn and cultivate personal growth.
My Enduring Dispositions that support me (traits, habits, behaviors that I do not want to change and that help me to be successful).
Goleman (2015) suggests social awareness is how people handle relationships and awareness of others’ feelings, needs, and concerns. I view this dimension as one of my greatest strengths. I tend to put others’ feelings before my own and exercise a great deal of empathy. I feel like I excel in my ability to put myself in someone else’s position or situation. Doing that helps me with my thoughts and actions towards always trying to do the right thing. I genuinely care to listen to what others have to say and the different perspectives they may have. I think it is important to keep an open mind because I sure do not know everything. I am also authentic and I think others see that since I base most of my decisions on how it will affect others, not just affect me. I believe in being compassionate, kind, and considerate to others and do my best to abide by the Golden Rule.
Liabilities:
My weaknesses (things I know I don’t do well and I want to do better).
I mentioned earlier how being analytical is one of my distinctive strengths. While that is true, I also see this as sometimes being a weakness because I can tend to overthink. I can tend to try and forecast every scenario based on making a single decision which overwhelms me. This is a weakness especially when situations are time sensitive and I succumb to paralysis by analysis. Another weakness I recognize is my resilience or lack thereof. I used to be extremely resilient, but now I find myself struggling to combat some of life’s challenges.
Weaknesses I want to Change (things I know I don’t do well and want to change).
I love to focus on one thing until completion. However, life just doesn’t work that way. Whether at work where multiple things are being thrown at me at once or at home where I’m trying to simultaneously do homework, cook, and answer all the questions my kids are asking me, that’s just the nature of the beast and today’s normal. I used to be much better at multitasking, especially at work, but after taking a new job I find myself scatterbrained. I want to get everything done at once. I’m working on prioritizing and only focus on those priorities (in proper order) unless something or someone of a higher priority comes along. Another weakness I want to change is my lack of positivity. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in challenges that it feels like gloom and doom and nothing good will come of it. I have to constantly remind myself that some things I stress over are really just trivial and they shouldn’t affect my mood or outlook in a negative way.
My enduring dispositions that sometimes get in my way (traits, habits, behaviors that I do not want to change and that sometimes cause me to be less effective).
Nobody knows you better than, well, yourself. And I know one thing about myself that while I am proud of, I also know it can be detrimental. It’s me being non-confrontational and wanting to please everyone, sometimes having to sacrifice my own well-being. For example, there are times when I should speak up and challenge people but I bite my lip so not to cause friction. I want to make everyone happy, despite knowing that is not always possible. That’s not to say I never voice my concerns knowing it may cause problems, but it’s typically the exception, not the norm.
Reference:
Goleman, D. (2015, April 21). How Emotionally Intelligent Are You? Retrieved from http://www.danielgoleman.info/daniel-goleman-how-emotionally-intelligent-are-you/
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